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[Zoltar]

Mere words seem inadequate for such a sad loss. I hope you and your family have the strength to deal with this in your own way and very soon, gain the strength to move forward once again.

My thoughts are with you all in this dark hour.

Tony

[CrAzYbAr]

Very sorry to hear this Duplu and so near your Birthday too...But yes, do what your avatar says NEVER surrender...I haven't had many people go yet, but I still bring the never surrender attitude to events like this...
And your Mother has done the world good when she left, 3 adults and 2 children saved, she won't be forgotten.

[todd1970]

Shit man...that sucks on yer birthday as well..Sorry to hear your sad news mate the next few weeks are gonna be rough as hell for ya but keep yer spirits up the best you can..Time is a great healer as they say.

[Jimbob219]

Incredibly sorry to hear this Duplu, best wishes to you and your Family.

[ady]

Good god Duplu i'm so sorry to see this.

My Mum passed 4 Years ago and the dreaded day is fast approaching.

To read what your friends say I hope helps you a little...you and your family are in my thoughts.

[beth]

sorry too hear of your sad loss,i myself lost a freind last saturday, my thoughts are with you and ur family x.

[Pook]

Sorry for your lost Al, our thoughts are with you.

[ady]

Having just reread your statement Al, may I say I have total respect for you and your family.

To give life to others is a heartwarming feeling in itself, I know my Mum (even me as a 42 yo) looks down on me....and I can imagine your mums joy at seeing the thanks on those familys faces that she has made the gift possible, she knows the heartache with you guy's but is aware that in time you'll see she is happy.

My Mum made the same choice but her condition didn't allow that to happen, that prompted me to make the same choice.

She's safe mate, you can talk to her and she can talk to you, you know that...all it is, is the voice is quiet...but listen enough and you will hear it, I promise.

[mythicos]

My sympathies are with you mate.

I think the reason you are doing so well is that your mum seems to have been an inspiration, one we could all lend our wisdom from.

Take care, if you need anything just email me

Andy

[Nudgeman]

A cruel blow indeed, your post was thought provoking for myself and many others I'm sure.

Deepest sympathies.

[hitthesix]

heartfelt sympathies to you and your family at this sad time..
only the good die young.

Heaven's gate swung gently open,
The Master called softly, "Come,"
And you, dear one, took the Master's hand,
And your work on earth was done.
We'll never cease to miss you,
And shed many silent tears,
Because we cannot share with you
Our hopes, our joys, our fears.
But one day, in God's garden,
When the Master calls us to come.
You'll be at the gates with open arms
And say to us, "Welcome Home!:

god bless and take care

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[pash]

I cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through right now as if it was me i would be devastated.

But dont try and deal with this alone i know you have to be strong for others but you have people with you to help you get through this

My thoughts and prayers go with you old friend

[mocochoco]

Really sorry to hear about your families loss Al, my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

[mrmystery83]

I know what your going through right now mate. Lost my Mum when i was 18 after a long illness. It will be hard right now but as time goes on it will get easier. You obviously never forget but eventually you find it easier to live with. Don't do what i did and bottle things up, talk to your friends and family and don't try and deal with it on your own.

You'll probably get a lot closer to your dad than you used to be. I know i have. A lot of people might not know what to say to you. They might be frightened of saying the wrong things. But a lot of the time, it's the things that aren't said that mean most. Just knowing you have people there if you need them.

Allow yourself enough time to grieve. I didn't do that and i guess i rushed back into things to try and take my mind off it. Everyone's different though. You'll feel a lot of different emotions. Obviously grief, but also maybe anger, all the bad people in the world are left and this happens to someone you care about. There's good days and bad days, take it one day at a time. But you can take some comfort knowing the other lives that have been saved thanks to the gift of organ donation.

It'll be 6 years in December. I also believe they look down on you and watch over you. When i get married Mum won't be there in person but i know she will in spirit. Take care.

I Did Not Die

Do not stand at my grave and weep.

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow;

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain;

I am the gentle Autumn’s rain.


When you awaken in the morning’s hush.

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft star that shines at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.

I am not there;

I did not die.


- Anon -

A poem i took some comfort from

[syco]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss
My thoughts are with yourself and your family

[mrgspot]

Duplu, My thoughts are with you, God Bless

G

[PJ]

mrgspot - there's a PM for you...


I also extend my condolences at this dark time, I can't really think of anything that hasn't already been said, so I'll just agree with all the above...

[ady]

Today is 5 years since I lost my Mum, it still seem's like Yesterday.

Tommorow is as we know Fathers day, lets extend Dulpu's message...

Tell your Dad how you feel..

[todd1970]

I would Ady but my dad is a prick..a load of crap went on between him and my mum which i wont bore you with the details..and im not gonna start some kinda sob story here.

But when i got married 15 years ago i invited my dad to my wedding obv i was sooo looking forward to having him there and what do ya know he didnt show up..spoke to him once or twice after it hes tried to apologise but i dont wanna know.

He ripped me to peices that day and its summat i can forget about ffs im a big boy noo i can get over it but ill never forgive him.

Arent families shite sometimes ?

[hitthesix]

well i wish i could but sadly my dad died when i was 5
so i"ll be having a trip to the cemetary tomorrow....as per usual
life sucks ....on days like this..